For painful cycles that keep repeating despite how much you both care.

Relationships can be among the most meaningful and vulnerable parts of life. Even strong partnerships can find themselves caught in recurring cycles of conflict, misunderstanding, distance, or disconnection. Conversations become predictable, the same issues keep resurfacing, and both partners are left feeling unheard, alone, or unsure how to move forward.

Often, what happens between partners makes more sense when we understand what is happening within them. Reactions such as anger, criticism, defensiveness, shutdown, avoidance, or withdrawal are often protective responses to more vulnerable feelings and needs underneath. While these reactions may be trying to protect against hurt, rejection, shame, or disappointment, they can unintentionally create the very disconnection both partners are struggling with.

Couples therapy offers a space to slow these patterns down and understand what is happening beneath them. Rather than focusing only on what you're arguing about, we'll explore the cycle that keeps pulling you apart and the deeper emotional experiences that give that cycle its power.

My work with couples is informed by Internal Family Systems (IFS), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and attachment theory. Together, these approaches help us understand both the relationship between partners and the protective strategies each person brings into it.

As these patterns become clearer, couples are often able to approach themselves and each other with greater curiosity and less blame. Partners become better able to recognize what they are feeling, understand what they need, communicate more directly, and respond to one another with greater openness and care.

The aim of this work is not simply to reduce conflict, but to help partners build a relationship that feels more secure, authentic, emotionally alive, and deeply connected.

75 mins |  $240

I do not accept insurance, but I can provide monthly superbills for clients seeking out-of-network reimbursement.